It’s not only women that shit test men. MEN also shit test MEN. Men and women both shit test men for the same reason:
To know whether a man is truly confident or a phony.
But the difference between the outcome of the shit-test of a man from that of a woman is that:
Women use your reaction to the shit test to determine if you are a suitable mate. Whilst…
Men use your reaction to gauge the level of respect that most be bestowed upon you.
The shit test of guys mostly comes in the form of banter; then it will metamorphose either into earning their respect or their disrespect —solely based on your reaction.
When you earn their respect, they will treat you well. They’d even hype you up in front of women. But when you earn their disrespect, they’d turn you into a human doormat. Even women won’t see anything bad in disrespecting you.
This is why it’s a must for you to learn how to pass shit tests from guys. Don’t worry…
I will show you how:
If you react defensively, this signals to them that you are riddled with weakness and insecurity.
If you show fear and hide your face in shame you are completely fucked!! Why? Because it’s a telltale sign that you are weak and they’d make your life a living hell.
If you take it personally, you’d become prey to them. They will always poke you for the fun of it – to piss you off.
The most effective method is to participate in the banter. You can do this in three ways:
- One, by turning the test into a compliment for yourself. This method is very effective when dealing with strangers because you have no idea what their weaknesses are.
- Two, by making fun of yourself based on the joke that was made about you – don’t do this often though because they’d think you don’t value yourself and they’d treat you accordingly.
- Last but not least, in fact its the most effective method among the three: Poke Them Back (This does not mean you should insult them).
That way, you signal to them that:
- You can’t be easily rattled this portrays strength hence earning their respect.
- You are assertive and you aren’t afraid of confrontations—they won’t want to mess with you.
- You don’t take life seriously – a fun guy to be around.
However, you must find a balance. If you participate every time in the banter this breeds overfamiliarity and hence they won’t respect you. Learn when to participate and learn when to ignore completely.
The key thing here is that you should never show weakness. Displaying weakness to people is like bleeding in a sea full of sharks. They’ll tear you to pieces.
NOTE:
This is not to say that you should ignore disrespect from guys. When they step over your boundaries, never hesitate to call them out on their bullshit.
