“People used to look out on the and say that the boys were playing soccer and the girls were doing nothing. But the girls weren’t doing nothing—they were talking. They were talking about the world to one another. And they became very expert about that in a way the boys did not”.
— Carol Gilligan,
When we were boys, most of us didn’t give a shit about improving our social skills. That was when girls were gaining and refining covert knowledge on manipulation. A boy of the same age as a girl didn’t have half of the knowledge a girl had in socializing—girls were miles ahead of boys.
And this was because boys were preoccupied with other things. Things that appealed to them due to their nature – they played ball, they ran around, they competed with other boys. They did all sorts of physical activities that the girls couldn’t dare.
Boys thought socializing was boring but they had no idea that was where true POWER resides—which they will later discover as they got older. Boys leveraged their physical abilities. Girls leveraged their social skills.
As they grew, girls became better at socializing and manipulation. They had to because they knew they were the weaker vessel. So they had to compensate for their physical weaknesses by becoming masters at manipulation, in which their fathers happened to be the first specimens for their manipulative techniques – till it became second nature to them.
This skill is further developed when they entered their prime. Older men approached them. They went on dates with them. They tasted the lifestyle of these men—which by the way didn’t make them wiser, instead it made them more exposed and damaged.
They could tell just by looking at a man whether he’s insecure, weak, strong, easy to manipulate, worthy of respect, beta, Alpha, and so on. And when it was too hard to tell they shit-test them.
In essence…Women have been playing the game long before men knew of its existence. And this is why we say a woman of the same age as a man is 5 years older. This is also why it’s precarious for a man to date/ marry a woman who’s older than him.
